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August 27, 2015

Empty Nest

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Empty nest

This is what my house feels like today. Yesterday, I dropped my younger daughter, Sarah, off at her new school year home at Wentworth Institute of Technology in Boston. Older daughter, Meghan, returned to her school on Sunday. I know I’m not “officially” an empty-nester, since my girls still technically live at home, but this is how it feels. Another piece of my heart is now beginning her adventure in the exciting capitol city of this state.

The dorm room

Fun, quirky, introverted, intelligent, caring, sweetheart Sarah in her dorm room.

With Wentworth leopard

A new chapter of my life begins. It’s a chapter I’ve never been ready for but knew was inevitable. How will I adjust and fill the pages of this chapter? My girls have been my focus for the last 20 years of my life, and while they will continue to be my first priority forever, my daily role as “mom” is now no longer. It is such a huge part of my identity – where do I go from here?

10 Comments »

  1. I know just how you are feeling although it has been about a decade since I first experienced the empty nest. Be gentle with yourself. In time you will adjust to this just as you adjusted to having children. Lots of exciting things await in this chapter of your life. đŸ™‚
    P.S. I haven’t looked at your photo challenge posts yet because I’m still trying to put mine together.

    Comment by Robin — August 27, 2015 @ 2:02 pm | Reply

    • Thank you Robin. It is good to hear from someone who has been there.
      Looking forward to your photo challenge post!

      Comment by Karma — August 27, 2015 @ 6:57 pm | Reply

  2. Forward, Karen, forward. Baby steps at first, with longing looks back. With time, your strides will grow longer and stronger and the pride that your girls are doing what you raised them to do will become the predominant emotion.

    Comment by Carol — August 27, 2015 @ 3:29 pm | Reply

    • Sounds like good advice, Carol. Thank you.

      Comment by Karma — August 27, 2015 @ 6:58 pm | Reply

  3. Oh Karen I don’t know. I would feel exactly the same… Lost. I hope you can throw yourself into photography, writing, or any other passion you have.

    Comment by plainmama — August 28, 2015 @ 8:54 am | Reply

    • It is not a good feeling, that is for sure. I know I will adjust in time, but I think it will take a long time. Doing my best to keep busy and distract my mind.

      Comment by Karma — August 28, 2015 @ 2:00 pm | Reply

  4. I’ve been watching so many moms (and dads too) send their kids off to college. Either the first child…a middle..or the youngest child, which seems to be the hardest for many. Each time it seems the parents struggle more than the young person. It must be hard for both sides. I can’t remember being taken to college for the first time, seeing my folks drive away. Can’t remember if it was my mom or my dad that took me to school that first year. Can’t remember how I felt. But I do know that I knew they loved me. And your girls for sure know that too. So it’s all going to be just fine.

    Comment by Dawn — September 4, 2015 @ 12:33 pm | Reply

    • Thanks Dawn. You are of course correct that it will be just fine. I’m just having trouble with the adjustment. I miss coming home from work to Sarah’s smile and having dinner with her. Catch myself swallowing back tears much of the time.

      Comment by Karma — September 5, 2015 @ 7:40 am | Reply

  5. Karma, this is a very bittersweet time in life. Our fledglings leave the nest…and then who knows what will happen next? It’s a time to be patient with our hearts and honor that the sadness reveals just how much we loved and enjoyed having the little birds around. And seeing that part of the challenge may be a fear of who we are without those little ones. They were so intertwined in our definition of ourselves. I remember this time well… Take care. Are you back to school? What is your assignment this year?

    Comment by Kathy — September 6, 2015 @ 8:51 am | Reply

    • You’ve described what I am feeling so well Kathy. Thank you for adding your wisdom here. I’m trying to take baby steps in figuring out how life will be now.
      I am back in school, in the position that I was placed in last year after my long-term sub position was finished – I’m working as a para in the classroom for students who have difficulties in math. I passed my test and I am now certified to teach math, but was unable to find a teaching job this past summer.

      Comment by Karma — September 7, 2015 @ 8:15 am | Reply


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