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November 2, 2014

Hallowasn’t

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As often happens to me as I do my best to keep up with all of you in the blogosphere, I got inspired for my own post by reading this post from Robin who was inspired by reading this post from Bo. Many beautiful thoughts can be found in both of these posts, and they got me thinking about my own changing rituals.

I titled this post “Hallowasn’t” because for the first time in a long time, Halloween was no big deal around here. It usually has been in some way or another whether it was big parties or murder mysteries or just enjoying the excitement of my daughters as they went out to trick or treat. I’ve written several posts about ways we’ve celebrated in the past. I did dress up for Halloween for school (sorry forgot to take a selfie for ya) and I did have a wonderful dinner with my friends last weekend which I alluded to in this post, but the real Halloween spirit was not here. Friends seemed too busy to want to put much thought into costumes for a party and my girls are far past trick or treating age. ONE trick-or-treater came to my door! As I told you in this post, my dance studio closed its doors this year. My dance teacher is one of the most Halloween spirited people I know. I missed the excitement of planning for several Halloween parties the week before Halloween at the studio. We did still get to have a little Halloween fun at the new studio, but of course it wasn’t quite the same.

I found this message posted on my mom’s fridge the last time I went to visit her.
Message
It is true and a good one to remember. Doesn’t necessarily make accepting some of the changes easier though. I know this is the way of the world. If you’ve done your job as a parent well, you’ve created good people who go on to create their own good lives. Doesn’t mean I can’t miss enjoying the days like this:
Tiger baby

Lunette
does it?
(Does anyone remember the PBS children’s show “The Big Comfy Couch“? It aired on PBS when my girls were little and they loved it. Meghan is dressed up as Lunette the Clown, the main character from the show. I made that costume and was quite proud of it!)

Life brings changes, and with those changes, changes in our rituals. Party and costume planning was always a big ritual for this family at this time of the year. It seems that ritual could be fading into the past.

Connecting with the people who mean the most to you is one ritual that I hope never fades. A few weeks ago, I once again got to go to visit dear friend Renae, and my sister and mother, and her close friend Katie joined us at a place that has become a new ritual – Pickity Place.
Toffee cheesecake w/strawberry sauce and whipped cream

My sister made a new friend of one of the Pickity kitties:
Kitty loves my sister

Last night I had the pleasure of a delicious dinner with some wonderful women: Sherry, Tracey and Sherry’s mom Carol (who is also Tracey’s mother-in-law). I was the only one who wasn’t “officially” family, but that’s okay, I’m close enough! We went to a local restaurant, La Cucina di Hampden House and enjoyed great food and drinks and each other’s company.
Espresso martini
espresso martini

Eggplant tower
eggplant tower appetizer

This occasion came up because our husbands were together playing poker and visiting in support of a man who has had some health issues recently and was joyed by the idea of spending time with the men he has known since they were boys. We ladies toasted each other and Carol even suggested that this dinner become a tradition. A new ritual, so-to-speak. I like that idea.

15 Comments »

  1. What an awesome post Karen! I remember Meghan’s Big comfy couch costume. I bought her that doll and she she said “what does it do Grandma?” She was already technically minded then. I love that little tiger. So adorable. Always love your thoughts and writing!

    Comment by trish49 — November 2, 2014 @ 9:00 am | Reply

  2. New traditions …what a great idea. Love the ladies night out tradition…always a good time. I imagine it’s a bit sad to see both girls grown up. But my mom said some of the best times were when we were adults and she could relate to us at a different level.

    Comment by Dawn — November 2, 2014 @ 10:32 am | Reply

    • I know there are still lots of good times to come, but it can still be hard letting good old times go!

      Comment by Karma — November 2, 2014 @ 4:02 pm | Reply

  3. What a happy thing, this birth of a new ritual when an old ritual fades away. In that same way, your times with your girls will evolve into beautiful new memories.

    Comment by Carol — November 2, 2014 @ 10:48 am | Reply

    • Thank you Carol for seeing the very bright side of things. Interesting too that your namesake suggested the creation of the new tradition!

      Comment by Karma — November 2, 2014 @ 4:03 pm | Reply

  4. I remember “Big Comfy Couch”. Great costume !

    Not so sure about that “Martini” ! 😉

    Comment by sybil — November 2, 2014 @ 11:07 am | Reply

    • When I went about looking for Big Comfy Couch information, I discovered that it was originally a Canadian television show – so kind of cool that you are the blogger that remembers it!
      The martini was fabulous – it tasted more like a “mudslide” if you are familiar with that cocktail, than an espresso.

      Comment by Karma — November 2, 2014 @ 4:05 pm | Reply

  5. Wonderful post, Karma. Old rituals and new rituals all rolled up in one. Thank you for the mention. 🙂

    Comment by Robin — November 2, 2014 @ 1:46 pm | Reply

    • Thank you Robin – and thanks again for inspiration!

      Comment by Karma — November 2, 2014 @ 4:05 pm | Reply

  6. Great post that hits home for me. It is time to move on from the current chapter. New traditions are starting here too! Enjoy yours as they progress! BTW – liking the look of that eggplant tower… was it as good as it looks? 🙂

    Comment by Mike — November 2, 2014 @ 3:35 pm | Reply

    • It is so true, isn’t it Mike? I remember that your kids are just a year or two older than mine I believe, so I know you’ve experienced much of the same. I’ve tried to make this year, my first full calendar year as a parent of a college student, an acceptance of change and finding the joy in it. I think I’m doing well, but those occasional moments of melancholy slip back in from time to time.
      The eggplant tower was delicious. The dark glazing was balsamic vinegar and all the tastes of the tower worked really well together.

      Comment by Karma — November 2, 2014 @ 4:08 pm | Reply

  7. I’m watching you and anticipating those life changes, they are already happening fast around here (high school, voice changing, attitude) and I don’t know if anyone could ever be prepared for their departure. Hugs to you and I’m envious of your Pickity Place tradition.

    Comment by Becky Sue — November 3, 2014 @ 7:40 am | Reply

    • Thank you Becky. I know it is how things are supposed to be, but many things are still difficult to let go of. “Being mom” is such an ingrained part of my existance so I am trying really hard to remember to enjoy and appreciate this final year of high school for Sarah, my baby.

      Comment by Karma — November 3, 2014 @ 4:32 pm | Reply

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