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October 9, 2010

What Would You Change?

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Kathy over at Lake Superior Spirit recently received this award.  In her blog post about it, she explained although the award came with a few rules, she wasn’t obligated to follow them, so she followed them in her own Kathy-like way.  This is a pass-it-on type of award where you are supposed to choose 6 other bloggers to give the award to, plus answer a question.  Kathy was unable to choose 6 bloggers, so she invited any of her regular commenters who had commented in the last couple of weeks to have the award.  This award seems more like one of those blog “memes” that passes around from time to time, because of the question:  If you had the chance to go back and change one thing in your life, would you and what would it be?

I started thinking about many of the decisions I’ve made in my life, some I’ve come to regret.  Why didn’t I join any clubs or try to get more involved in high school?  Why didn’t I study dance as a child?  Why didn’t my sister and I take that student trip to Paris when we had the chance?  I wouldn’t change anything about the fundamentally important parts of my life – my husband and when we got married, my children and when I had them.  It brought up the question of fate and predestination.  I believe that we as human beings have the control to take our lives in the direction that we choose, that it is not all layed out for us at the moment of our birth.  Although I am not a religious person, I feel I do have a spirituality to me and believe that my husband is my soul mate.  I do believe that if we hadn’t met when we did, we would have met at another place and time with the same result.


So what would I change if I had the chance?  One big choice that I do regret from time to time is the fact that I did not go away to live at college.  I was accepted and had a partial scholarship here, but at the last minute chickened out of going.  I lived at home and commuted to a local state college.  This may not seem like a big decision, but when I think back, it kind of was.  I never lived on my own.  I went from living at home, to getting married and living with my husband.  I never really took that chance to see what I was like on my own.  Perhaps if I had taken the chance and lived away at college, I’d be happier with my work situation today.   Perhaps not.  Perhaps if I had lived away at college, I’d be more willing to take other chances today.   Perhaps not.  Perhaps if I’d taken some time to be on my own, I’d feel less today like someone who is still trying to figure it all out.   Perhaps not.


I invite any blogger reading this post to also accept this Cherry on Top award, and do with it as you like.  Follow the rules or don’t.  Think about and answer that question or don’t.  Take a chance on something new today – or don’t?


  1. Beautiful rainbow shots. I’m glad I stopped by for a number of reasons but the rainbow was the cherry on top. 🙂

    I understand what you mean about living on your own and how that might (or might not) have changed things. I’ve never lived on my own either, and have pondered whether or not that might make a difference in how I approach (or don’t approach) things in life.

    Comment by Robin — October 9, 2010 @ 3:44 pm | Reply

    • Thanks, Robin, but I really wish I could have gotten pictures of that rainbow when I first saw it. It was huge and bright and beautiful and by the time I could lay my hands on my camera it had already begun to fade.

      Answers we will never have, I suppose.

      Comment by Karma — October 10, 2010 @ 9:33 pm | Reply

  2. Funny… I was just thinking about this the other day, when I scheduled my Memory Lane post. I would love to go back and live part(s) of my life over again, but in the end, I don’t think I would do anything differently. Every decision I’ve made, brought me to where I am today, and I wouldn’t want to be anywhere else. Although I can’t help but wonder what my life would be like if I COULD go back and DID change something…

    Those rainbow shots are beautiful!

    Comment by thedailyclick — October 10, 2010 @ 6:08 am | Reply

    • Thanks Michaela. Ultimately, I suppose it is a silly question to ponder since we can’t go back and change anything. But what would we be if we never wondered about anything?

      Comment by Karma — October 10, 2010 @ 9:37 pm | Reply

  3. Good morning, Karma. This was really interesting. Would you be the same person at all if you had chosen another path? I’m thinking, too, that I never really lived alone either–and that some time back in my 30’s or 40’s I started thinking that probably would have been a good thing–but as I started growing more as an individual and coming into myself more, it started to seem that I was living on my own. Even with hubby here. That sounds weird to say. I am going to take these rainbows into my day today…thank you for them. And glad that you accepted the Cherry on Top award. For being the person you are today.

    Comment by Kathy — October 10, 2010 @ 7:44 am | Reply

    • I think I can get what you say about living on your own even with hubby there. There have been plenty of times I’ve had to figure it out for myself either because he wasn’t here physically (he works the night shift) or I was working through something that only I could work through.

      I’m glad you had a chance to pop over and comment, and enjoy the rainbows. Thanks, Kathy.

      Comment by Karma — October 10, 2010 @ 9:41 pm | Reply

  4. J´aime ce blog et les photos de l´arc-en-ciel (rainbow). Je pense que chaque chose que nous faisons, chaque décision que nous prenons (ou pas) a une raison. Nous sommes le résultat de tous ces moments de notre vie, de toutes les rencontres (ou pas)et si tu es heureuse maintenant alors… pas de regrets 🙂

    Comment by isathreadsoflife — October 25, 2010 @ 2:30 pm | Reply

    • Une belle philosophie, Isa!
      Et j’aime le mot francais pour “rainbow”!

      Comment by Karma — October 25, 2010 @ 8:33 pm | Reply

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