Kathy over at Lake Superior Spirit recently received this award. In her blog post about it, she explained although the award came with a few rules, she wasn’t obligated to follow them, so she followed them in her own Kathy-like way. This is a pass-it-on type of award where you are supposed to choose 6 other bloggers to give the award to, plus answer a question. Kathy was unable to choose 6 bloggers, so she invited any of her regular commenters who had commented in the last couple of weeks to have the award. This award seems more like one of those blog “memes” that passes around from time to time, because of the question: If you had the chance to go back and change one thing in your life, would you and what would it be?
I started thinking about many of the decisions I’ve made in my life, some I’ve come to regret. Why didn’t I join any clubs or try to get more involved in high school? Why didn’t I study dance as a child? Why didn’t my sister and I take that student trip to Paris when we had the chance? I wouldn’t change anything about the fundamentally important parts of my life – my husband and when we got married, my children and when I had them. It brought up the question of fate and predestination. I believe that we as human beings have the control to take our lives in the direction that we choose, that it is not all layed out for us at the moment of our birth. Although I am not a religious person, I feel I do have a spirituality to me and believe that my husband is my soul mate. I do believe that if we hadn’t met when we did, we would have met at another place and time with the same result.
So what would I change if I had the chance? One big choice that I do regret from time to time is the fact that I did not go away to live at college. I was accepted and had a partial scholarship here, but at the last minute chickened out of going. I lived at home and commuted to a local state college. This may not seem like a big decision, but when I think back, it kind of was. I never lived on my own. I went from living at home, to getting married and living with my husband. I never really took that chance to see what I was like on my own. Perhaps if I had taken the chance and lived away at college, I’d be happier with my work situation today. Perhaps not. Perhaps if I had lived away at college, I’d be more willing to take other chances today. Perhaps not. Perhaps if I’d taken some time to be on my own, I’d feel less today like someone who is still trying to figure it all out. Perhaps not.
I invite any blogger reading this post to also accept this Cherry on Top award, and do with it as you like. Follow the rules or don’t. Think about and answer that question or don’t. Take a chance on something new today – or don’t?
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